Modeling With A Dash Of Love
Des (IIDESIRAEII), and Sloan (Sloans) have been together for 9 months. They met when Sloan was taking part in a modeling competition that Des was a judge for. They describe it as lust at first sight, as time went on it grow into a loving relationship. We asked this couple about their favorite memories, to advice for what makes a relationship work.
What is one of your favorite memories together and why? IIDESIRAEII: I would say every date we have had. They were all so amazing or I would say our wedding day which of course was also great. Sloans: Yes, we've done so much, it’s hard to point out just one great memory but, being able to finally say “we're married” is pretty amazing. I also think it’s important as a same sex couple to show people that you can have an amazing relationship.
What are some of the challenges you face as a couple and how do you overcome them? IIDESIRAEII: Our arguments. We overcome them like every argument. We realize that what we are arguing about in the first place is completely insane. Talk to each other and explain why each other did what we did in response to how we felt in the situation and boom, we go back to loving each other. Even when we argue we want to love each other.
What do you think it takes to make a relationship work? IIDESIRAEII: I say communication, and lots of it! Because there have been times where me and Sloan would think arguing was communication, but at the same time we were both still learning how to love again. So, definitely learning how to talk to each other and learning how to explain your feelings to one another. Sloans: Yeah, for sure. I also think with the communication you need to have a lot of patience and understanding. I think a lot of couples just get so frustrated and give up and we've definitely had our moments but, we value what we have and just keep pushing.
Do you think it’s a long process learning to communicate? IIDESIRAEII: Yes, definitely it took us a good 4 months, but we also knew we wanted each other. So, in the end we figured out how to make things work. Sloans: Yes, I mean of course because you're taking on someone else's thoughts, feelings, and pain.
What are your favorite things about one another? IIDESIRAEII: I love just about everything about Sloan. Her love for me, the way she takes care of me, she’s incredibly smart and so talented. She’s great even when she doesn’t think she is. [Des and Sloan laugh] Sloans: Besides the fact that Des is just absolutely gorgeous. She’s basically my best friend. She’s also smart and talented, she doesn’t give herself credit for the amazing things she does, her ability to be so loving and patient, the way she is with our daughter, it just makes me so happy.
If you could give any couple advice on how to keep the spark what would you say? Sloans: We definitely have spark. Sometimes too much spark. I mean in terms of “in the bedroom” I think being open is key honestly and trying new things. IIDESIRAEII: Maybe yes, but it’s hard to answer this one because we literally are so interested in one another that we could have a whole conversation on something as simple as cheese. Sloans: Des and I just have that chemistry to the point if you were to take away our intimacy we could survive as friends. IIDESIRAEII: We could. Especially knowing that even as friends I'd still only want you. Sloans: That’s very true baby and I'd only want you.
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Interviewer: Emris Copy Editor: Somiar
Photographer: Kongan
Interview conducted in December 2017
