The Fkboy Handbook: Intro
The Fkboy Handbook.
We’ve all dealt with at least.. I don’t know.. 10 or 20 in our lifetimes. Fkboys are in abundance in the world today, and the IMVU world is no different. So this blog series is an exclusive look into what I like to call the ‘Fkboy Handbook.’ This handbook is a complete and real guide on how to achieve official fkboy status and how these people (women can be fkboys too!) think and operate. By the end of it, you’ll know what to look for to know whether or not you’re dealing with love’s ultimate enemy: The Fkboy.
Part I: A WHAT Boy?
Though we’ve all dealt with them, you may not have even known you were in the presence of a fkboy.
A fkboy is a person whose main goal is to win the hearts of others due to their lack of love for themselves.
A common misconception is that a fkboy only wants sex from you. This is NOT true. To a fkboy, sex is just a glorified addition. A fkboy can continue with his game WITHOUT sex. The fkboy is a very convincing, manipulative, sweet and romantic pathological liar. By definition, a pathological liar is someone who lies compulsively, to the point where they believe their own lies. This is why you sometimes see REAL tears come from the fkboy’s eyes. But remember, this is their game.
They specialize in pulling the right heartstrings, pushing the right buttons, and making you believe that their words are true to you, because that is their number one concern: making you believe what they want you to believe.
So does this mean that every boy or girl that broke your heart is a certified fkboy? Absolutely not. Some people just make stupid mistakes. Some people genuinely do not mean to hurt others and they are truly apologetic when things go sour. Recall, the fkboy’s most defining characteristic is their ability to manipulate any and everything to the point where you feel like YOU’RE in the wrong for their wrongdoing. For a fkboy, being both convincing and manipulative is extremely conducive to their endless game to win your heart. For example, one of their favorite games is to find a way to make you feel bad about your feelings.
They can do this one of two ways: by starting a pity party and/or by talking in complete circles to the point where before you know it, you are apologizing.
The first way, the pity party, is to make you feel bad for bringing up their issue because they only “try to be the best girlfriend or boyfriend they can be.” The moment you say something about what they are doing wrong at that moment, their first words are usually, “Well if I’m such a bad boyfriend/girlfriend….” or, “I’m sorry I’m such a bad boyfriend/girlfriend.” Do not, I repeat, DO NOT fall for this. This is a tactic to make you start pointing out all the good things about them until, after a while, you completely forget why you were mad in the first place. Your focus is no longer on how YOU feel, it is now on making that person feel better about themselves. Therefore, once again, you are fooled into putting yourself second at all times.
The next way they can get your mind off of their own f*ck up is by talking in a complete circle until you are the one apologizing. The easiest way to explain this tactic is that the fkboy will blame you for what they “had” to do. In some way, you have “provoked” the fkboy to do whatever he did to hurt you. For instance, if the fkboy cheats on you, it is only because you stopped doing something in your relationship. Whether that be something as bad as frequent sex has slowed down, you stopped cooking, or you stopped being a friend first, he or she is going to do everything in their power to make you feel like you are in the wrong, thus causing you to apologize for something you didn’t even do.
